Behaviour

What is “normal” behaviour?

What is ‘normal’ behaviour varies between individuals – we all have our little quirks and eccentricities. The point at which the behaviour of a child or young person is problematic also varies. However, if the behaviour is affecting the young person’s ability to learn, interact appropriately with others and/or develop a healthy sense of self, then intervention may be necessary.

Sometimes it is difficult to know why a child or young person is behaving in a certain way – particularly if there is no apparent trigger or discernible pattern. The reasons are many so it can take time, and patience, to discover the underlying cause. However, for an intervention to be successful, understanding what is going on can make a big difference to the approach and outcome. Be sure to consider WHY the young person is behaving that way.

When considering the options available on KidsLink, be mindful that:

There is no “one” solution

There is no single convenient answer to many of the most important concerns affecting your child and family. No matter how badly we might wish for a simple answer or “quick fix”, we are faced with having to evaluate conflicting viewpoints affecting any given issue or problem. In truth, things are often more complicated than we would like them to be and it requires real effort from parents, Service Providers and the community.

Be realistic

For the vast majority of children and young people it would be wrong to say that they have a problem from which they will never recover or that little can be done to improve their situation. But it would be equally wrong to say that your child and family will be completely unchanged by the situation they and you are experiencing. Life is an accumulation of experiences. There is usually no pill, or any other treatment, that will take us back to ‘how we were before’ or in some cases ‘how we wish they had been in the first place’.

Personal experience

Ultimately, what works best for you and your child will be determined by your own personal experience – what worked brilliantly for your neighbour’s child may be of no benefit at all to your own, even though symptomatically the problem appears identical.

Because:

  • You know your child and family circumstances best;
  • there may be no consensus as to the cause of certain problems or what the best solution is, and
  • you are ultimately responsible for the care and welfare of your child…

KidsLink recommends that  you make your own enquiries as to the suitability, or otherwise, of any particular service or service provider.

The School of Voice and Drama Skills and Specialist Coaching

The School of Voice and Drama provides motivating, effective, creative and analytical learning strategies for anyone wanting to help their child build a range of skills in English, Communication and Drama fields. Diagnostic assessment and implementing personalised programmes are all catered for.

Location

  • Central Auckland

Specialities

  • Drama, Theatre & Musical Theatre
  • Gifted & Talented
  • Holiday Programmes
  • Pre-employment, Careers & Life Skills
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
  • Speech and Language
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Shore Therapy

Shore Therapy offers both long & short-term psychotherapy & counselling to children & families who are seeking a safe & professional space to explore & discover patterns of behaviour, thoughts & emotions, which affect their wellbeing.

Location

  • North Shore

Specialities

  • ADHD & Other Behaviour Disorders
  • Anger
  • Anxiety, Fears & Phobias
  • Bullying
  • Family Relationships
  • Parenting Skills
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Personality Dynamics

Sue Blair offers one-on-one or small group coaching for parents which focuses on understanding the personality dynamics within the home and how this may affect relationships.

Locations

  • Central Auckland
  • North Shore
  • Rodney

Specialities

  • Family Relationships
  • Parenting Skills
  • Pre-employment, Careers & Life Skills
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
  • Teacher & Parent Education
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Good Vibrations Music Ltd

Music Therapy for children is a child-centred approach that uses music as a medium to support child development. We develop a program specifically focused on the child’s individual needs, supporting specific goals around communication, behaviour, physical and mental health.

Location

  • North Shore

Specialities

  • Brain Development & Brain Injury
  • Speech and Language
  • Testing for Behaviour Concerns
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Daehan Taekwondo

Daehan Tae Kwon Do is certified by both the World and New Zealand Tae Kwon Do Federations.

Location

  • Rodney

Specialities

  • Indoor Sports & Activities
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
  • Under 5s Skills & Activities
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Kumgang Taekwondo

Do you want to: Develop co-ordination and concentration? Improve fitness? Boost confidence and self-esteem? Increase strength and stamina? Taekwondo from 5 years old; age and ability no barrier.

Locations

  • Central Auckland
  • North Shore

Specialities

  • Bullying
  • Coordination, Motor Skills & Mobility
  • Indoor Sports & Activities
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Let’s Play Outdoors NZ

‘Let's Play Outdoors NZ’ is a developing network of fun, free and/or low cost family outdoors groups throughout New Zealand. Their mission is to explore, discover and investigate as families play!

Location

  • Rodney

Specialities

  • Family Relationships
  • Outdoor Sports & Activities
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
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Ti Tree Hills Horse Treks Waiwera

Safe horse-riding lessons and guided horse treks through native bush, with spectacular views overlooking the Hauraki Gulf.

Location

  • Rodney

Specialities

  • Outdoor Sports & Activities
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
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Kiwi Tennis

Kiwi Tennis is a junior coaching and holiday programme that caters for any age or ability. Our junior coaching and holiday programme ensures that every child can achieve their full potential and learn to master the essentials of the game.

Locations

  • Central Auckland
  • East Auckland
  • North Shore
  • West Auckland

Specialities

  • Before/After School Care
  • Holiday Programmes
  • Indoor Sports & Activities
  • Outdoor Sports & Activities
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
  • Social Skills
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Playball

Playball is the world's premium movement program for 2-8 year olds where children develop crucial fundamental sport skills through age-appropriate programs with small class sizes.

Locations

  • East Auckland
  • North Shore
  • Rodney
  • West Auckland

Specialities

  • Coordination, Motor Skills & Mobility
  • Holiday Programmes
  • Indoor Sports & Activities
  • Outdoor Sports & Activities
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
  • Under 5s Skills & Activities
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