Behaviour

What is “normal” behaviour?

What is ‘normal’ behaviour varies between individuals – we all have our little quirks and eccentricities. The point at which the behaviour of a child or young person is problematic also varies. However, if the behaviour is affecting the young person’s ability to learn, interact appropriately with others and/or develop a healthy sense of self, then intervention may be necessary.

Sometimes it is difficult to know why a child or young person is behaving in a certain way – particularly if there is no apparent trigger or discernible pattern. The reasons are many so it can take time, and patience, to discover the underlying cause. However, for an intervention to be successful, understanding what is going on can make a big difference to the approach and outcome. Be sure to consider WHY the young person is behaving that way.

When considering the options available on KidsLink, be mindful that:

There is no “one” solution

There is no single convenient answer to many of the most important concerns affecting your child and family. No matter how badly we might wish for a simple answer or “quick fix”, we are faced with having to evaluate conflicting viewpoints affecting any given issue or problem. In truth, things are often more complicated than we would like them to be and it requires real effort from parents, Service Providers and the community.

Be realistic

For the vast majority of children and young people it would be wrong to say that they have a problem from which they will never recover or that little can be done to improve their situation. But it would be equally wrong to say that your child and family will be completely unchanged by the situation they and you are experiencing. Life is an accumulation of experiences. There is usually no pill, or any other treatment, that will take us back to ‘how we were before’ or in some cases ‘how we wish they had been in the first place’.

Personal experience

Ultimately, what works best for you and your child will be determined by your own personal experience – what worked brilliantly for your neighbour’s child may be of no benefit at all to your own, even though symptomatically the problem appears identical.

Because:

  • You know your child and family circumstances best;
  • there may be no consensus as to the cause of certain problems or what the best solution is, and
  • you are ultimately responsible for the care and welfare of your child…

KidsLink recommends that  you make your own enquiries as to the suitability, or otherwise, of any particular service or service provider.

Tony Bunyan Orthodontics

Tony Bunyan Orthodontics is one of less than ninety specialist orthodontic practices in New Zealand dedicated to providing the very best orthodontic care available. Because our priority and enthusiasm is for creating beautiful healthy smiles, we limit ourselves to orthodontic treatment exclusively.

Location

  • North Shore

Specialities

  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
  • Teeth, Mouth & Jaw
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The Ponsonby School of Dance

At The Ponsonby School of Dance, we aim to teach children the joy of dance in a fun and friendly environment, while developing confidence, ability and strong technical skills. We provide regular lessons and preparation for examinations, competitions, auditions and stage work.

Location

  • Central Auckland

Specialities

  • Dance
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
  • Under 5s Skills & Activities
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ICONZ – The Boys’ Brigade in NZ Inc

ICONZ and Boys’ Brigade offer weekly adventure based programmes for boys, mentored by men of integrity whose desire it is too see kiwi boys become kiwi icons. Programmes are specifically designed to develop practical life skills and encourage values such as discipline, integrity, respect.

Locations

  • East Auckland
  • North Shore
  • South Auckland
  • West Auckland

Specialities

  • Anxiety, Fears & Phobias
  • Bullying
  • Outdoor Sports & Activities
  • Pre-employment, Careers & Life Skills
  • Social Skills
  • Water sports & activities
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Physio Connect

Physio Connect is committed to providing an integrated accessible gold standard healthcare service to our younger generation. Our highly qualified team provide a comprehensive range of services including Physiotherapy, Pilates, Podiatry, and traditional Chinese Acupuncture.

Location

  • North Shore

Specialities

  • Bones, Muscles & Joints
  • Injuries & Rehabilitation
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
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Bounce School Of Dance

Bounce School of dance provides dancing in the form of Contemporary, Lyrical Ballet, Street Dance and Jazz. Catering for the beginner right through to the more advanced from all ages from 5 upwards. We foster the development of high self-esteem, self-discipline and self-motivation in students which can encourage and empower our younger generations

Location

  • Rodney

Specialities

  • Dance
  • Drama, Theatre & Musical Theatre
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
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Mile High Karate

Our goal is to help you and your family achieve new levels of fitness and health, self discipline, confidence and focus, through the mind/body practice of martial arts... We also offer programmes to support youth affected by bullying.

Location

  • North Shore

Specialities

  • Bullying
  • Indoor Sports & Activities
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Seasons for Growth

Seasons for Growth is an internationally successful, innovative education programme which assists people of all ages to understand & manage experiences of change, loss and grief.

Locations

  • Central Auckland
  • East Auckland
  • North Shore
  • Rodney
  • West Auckland

Specialities

  • Anger
  • Bullying
  • Depression & Mood
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
  • Trauma & Grief
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The Boatshed Counselling

I offer specialist counselling with children and adolescents from the age of 7 upwards. I also offer support to parents, in particular around behaviour and can offer the Triple P programme. I also work in schools offering specialist group work, crisis response and mindfulness. I am passionate about supporting your child to reach their potential.

Location

  • Rodney

Specialities

  • Anxiety, Fears & Phobias
  • Depression & Mood
  • Trauma & Grief
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Auckland Eye

Auckland Eye is New Zealand's centre of excellence for eye care, and our specialist paediatric ophthalmologists can help with any concerns you may have about your child's eyesight. A tailored approach that provides the best possible outcome for our patients and as New Zealand’s largest ophthalmic group we have every aspect of eye care covered, so you won’t be referred on to another clinic.

Location

  • Central Auckland

Specialities

  • Eyesight
  • Testing for Behaviour Concerns
  • Testing for Learning Concerns
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Language4Life

Language4Life is a private mobile Speech and Language service in Auckland covering the North Shore, Hisbiscus Coast and Rodney regions. Individualised therapy programmes are provided to children, adolescents and young adults, tailored to their specific needs to help them achieve their maximum communication potential.

Location

  • Rodney

Specialities

  • Behaviour Concerns
  • Speech and Language
  • Testing for Learning Concerns
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