Behaviour

What is “normal” behaviour?

What is ‘normal’ behaviour varies between individuals – we all have our little quirks and eccentricities. The point at which the behaviour of a child or young person is problematic also varies. However, if the behaviour is affecting the young person’s ability to learn, interact appropriately with others and/or develop a healthy sense of self, then intervention may be necessary.

Sometimes it is difficult to know why a child or young person is behaving in a certain way – particularly if there is no apparent trigger or discernible pattern. The reasons are many so it can take time, and patience, to discover the underlying cause. However, for an intervention to be successful, understanding what is going on can make a big difference to the approach and outcome. Be sure to consider WHY the young person is behaving that way.

When considering the options available on KidsLink, be mindful that:

There is no “one” solution

There is no single convenient answer to many of the most important concerns affecting your child and family. No matter how badly we might wish for a simple answer or “quick fix”, we are faced with having to evaluate conflicting viewpoints affecting any given issue or problem. In truth, things are often more complicated than we would like them to be and it requires real effort from parents, Service Providers and the community.

Be realistic

For the vast majority of children and young people it would be wrong to say that they have a problem from which they will never recover or that little can be done to improve their situation. But it would be equally wrong to say that your child and family will be completely unchanged by the situation they and you are experiencing. Life is an accumulation of experiences. There is usually no pill, or any other treatment, that will take us back to ‘how we were before’ or in some cases ‘how we wish they had been in the first place’.

Personal experience

Ultimately, what works best for you and your child will be determined by your own personal experience – what worked brilliantly for your neighbour’s child may be of no benefit at all to your own, even though symptomatically the problem appears identical.

Because:

  • You know your child and family circumstances best;
  • there may be no consensus as to the cause of certain problems or what the best solution is, and
  • you are ultimately responsible for the care and welfare of your child…

KidsLink recommends that  you make your own enquiries as to the suitability, or otherwise, of any particular service or service provider.

Stress Knot

With a passion for helping young people & families thrive, I offer a client centred approach to overcome emotional challenges such as anxiety, trauma & grief, depression & family relationship issues.

Location

  • West Auckland

Specialities

  • Anxiety, Fears & Phobias
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
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Glenfield Pool and Leisure Centre – ActivZone

ActivZone Indoor Sports Arena in an incredibly versatile indoor sports arena, home of skating and table tennis on the North Shore. Our specialised rink is perfect for all kinds of indoor sports, such as hockey or soccer and we host a large range of events and programmes.

Location

  • North Shore

Specialities

  • Indoor Sports & Activities
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
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Groovit Hip Hop Dance School

Groovit, a locally owned dance school based in the heart of Pukekohe offering fun and structured classes. It is the only dance school in the area offering classes specialising solely in Hip-Hop dance with structured classes and all the latest music.

Location

  • South Auckland

Specialities

  • Dance
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
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Auckland Eye

Auckland Eye is New Zealand's centre of excellence for eye care, and our specialist paediatric ophthalmologists can help with any concerns you may have about your child's eyesight. A tailored approach that provides the best possible outcome for our patients and as New Zealand’s largest ophthalmic group we have every aspect of eye care covered, so you won’t be referred on to another clinic.

Location

  • Central Auckland

Specialities

  • Eyesight
  • Testing for Behaviour Concerns
  • Testing for Learning Concerns
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Julia Hanna Arts Therapist

Julia Hanna Arts Therapy provides professional therapy services that promote the social, emotional, cognitive and physical health of your child. Using visual art making, dance/movement and sand tray therapy and working closely with family and whanau to further support the work we do in therapy.

Location

  • Central Auckland

Specialities

  • Anxiety, Fears & Phobias
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
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The Performance.Net North Shore

We tutor Dance, Drama and Musical Theatre. The ‘big idea’ of this education is to nurture and promote skills that will be the key to future success. Our aim is to develop young people who can present themselves to the world with pride and confidence.

Location

  • North Shore

Specialities

  • Dance
  • Drama, Theatre & Musical Theatre
  • Gifted & Talented
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
  • Social Skills
  • Under 5s Skills & Activities
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New Zealand Girls Choir

At the New Zealand Girls Choir, we thoroughly believe everyone has the ability to sing and that everyone deserves to be heard. It is our goal to inspire, challenge, create and build confidence in a nurturing and supportive environment where young girls can understand their voice and how to take control of their place in this world.

Location

  • North Shore

Specialities

  • Music
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
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North Harbour Living Without Violence

At North Harbour Living Without Violence, our main purpose is to facilitate respectful relationships. We provide education and support for children that have witnessed or experienced family violence, bullying, anger or abuse.

Location

  • North Shore

Specialities

  • Anger
  • Anxiety, Fears & Phobias
  • Bullying
  • Family Relationships
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
  • Trauma & Grief
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Massey University Centre For Psychology

The Centre for Psychology offers professional and cost-effective psychological services to the North Shore community. Our team offers a wide range of such services to individuals of all ages including children, adolescents, adults, and older adults.

Location

  • North Shore

Specialities

  • Anxiety, Fears & Phobias
  • Testing for Learning Concerns
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HBC Youth Centre

The Hibiscus Coast Youth Centre is a non-profit organization working to empower and strengthen youth and families through challenging activities, support services, employment, advocacy, education and training.

Location

  • Rodney

Specialities

  • Before/After School Care
  • Bullying
  • Holiday Programmes
  • Outdoor Sports & Activities
  • Social Skills
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