Behaviour

What is “normal” behaviour?

What is ‘normal’ behaviour varies between individuals – we all have our little quirks and eccentricities. The point at which the behaviour of a child or young person is problematic also varies. However, if the behaviour is affecting the young person’s ability to learn, interact appropriately with others and/or develop a healthy sense of self, then intervention may be necessary.

Sometimes it is difficult to know why a child or young person is behaving in a certain way – particularly if there is no apparent trigger or discernible pattern. The reasons are many so it can take time, and patience, to discover the underlying cause. However, for an intervention to be successful, understanding what is going on can make a big difference to the approach and outcome. Be sure to consider WHY the young person is behaving that way.

When considering the options available on KidsLink, be mindful that:

There is no “one” solution

There is no single convenient answer to many of the most important concerns affecting your child and family. No matter how badly we might wish for a simple answer or “quick fix”, we are faced with having to evaluate conflicting viewpoints affecting any given issue or problem. In truth, things are often more complicated than we would like them to be and it requires real effort from parents, Service Providers and the community.

Be realistic

For the vast majority of children and young people it would be wrong to say that they have a problem from which they will never recover or that little can be done to improve their situation. But it would be equally wrong to say that your child and family will be completely unchanged by the situation they and you are experiencing. Life is an accumulation of experiences. There is usually no pill, or any other treatment, that will take us back to ‘how we were before’ or in some cases ‘how we wish they had been in the first place’.

Personal experience

Ultimately, what works best for you and your child will be determined by your own personal experience – what worked brilliantly for your neighbour’s child may be of no benefit at all to your own, even though symptomatically the problem appears identical.

Because:

  • You know your child and family circumstances best;
  • there may be no consensus as to the cause of certain problems or what the best solution is, and
  • you are ultimately responsible for the care and welfare of your child…

KidsLink recommends that  you make your own enquiries as to the suitability, or otherwise, of any particular service or service provider.

Groovit Hip Hop Dance School

Groovit, a locally owned dance school based in the heart of Pukekohe offering fun and structured classes. It is the only dance school in the area offering classes specialising solely in Hip-Hop dance with structured classes and all the latest music.

Location

  • South Auckland

Specialities

  • Dance
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
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sKids KingsWay & Sunnynook

An Out of School Program that offers both a structured and free play environment. Weekly themes designed to educate, entertain and inspire your child. Children in our care learn socialisation skills, gain resilience, and are taught what respect looks like, sounds like and feels like.

Locations

  • North Shore
  • Rodney

Specialities

  • Before/After School Care
  • Creative Arts
  • Holiday Programmes
  • Indoor Sports & Activities
  • Outdoor Sports & Activities
  • Social Skills
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Howick Village Optometrists

A friendly, family-owned practice providing diagnostic assessments and solutions for your child’s eye health and vision challenges.

Location

  • East Auckland

Specialities

  • Eyesight
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
  • Testing for Learning Concerns
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Michael Vaughan

I'm a fully Registered Psychologist with 30+ years experience working with children's emotional & behavioural development in U.K. and N.Z. My light-hearted, positive approach can help your child and your family.

Locations

  • East Auckland
  • North Shore
  • South Auckland

Specialities

  • Anger
  • Anxiety, Fears & Phobias
  • Bullying
  • Depression & Mood
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
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QV Therapeutic Perspectives

QVTP is an independent practice, providing a wide range of counselling services on the North Shore, Albany, and Hibiscus Coast, with special emphasis in self-esteem, anger management, anxiety and depression. Using a range of interactive creative modalities (i.e. music, art, play dance) to make therapy interesting and help engage youth of all ages.

Locations

  • North Shore
  • Rodney

Specialities

  • Anger
  • Anxiety, Fears & Phobias
  • Behaviour Concerns
  • Family Relationships
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
  • Trauma & Grief
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Totally Psyched

Totally Psyched offers a friendly, supportive team of mental health professionals with solid credentials and evidence based practice to address a wide range of mental health challenges for children, adolescents & families.

Location

  • North Shore

Specialities

  • ADHD & Other Behaviour Disorders
  • Anxiety, Fears & Phobias
  • Depression & Mood
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Daehan Taekwondo

Daehan Tae Kwon Do is certified by both the World and New Zealand Tae Kwon Do Federations.

Location

  • Rodney

Specialities

  • Indoor Sports & Activities
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
  • Under 5s Skills & Activities
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Paterson Burn Optometrists – Te Awamutu

We offer eye examinations for children of all ages and their families. We have optometrists who specialise with children’s vision. These optometrists measure visual accommodation, binocular vision, convergence and eye tracking. I personally see children who are struggling at school due to visual perception problems.

Locations

  • Hamilton
  • Waikato

Specialities

  • Eyesight
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
  • Testing for Learning Concerns
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Cushla Clark

Providing mentoring, support & guidance for parents struggling to connect positively with their children. A caring, confidential & safe environment.

Locations

  • Central Auckland
  • East Auckland
  • Rodney
  • South Auckland

Specialities

  • Anger
  • Family Relationships
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Auckland Netball Centre

Auckland Netball Centre is a multi-purpose indoor and outdoor facility that offers afterschool and weekend netball clinics and holiday programmes for boys and girls of all ages at both our Main St Johns facility and our Mt Eden facility. Children will love the opportunity to learn and develop their skills in our fun and inclusive environment.

Location

  • Central Auckland

Specialities

  • Before/After School Care
  • Coordination, Motor Skills & Mobility
  • Holiday Programmes
  • Indoor Sports & Activities
  • Outdoor Sports & Activities
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
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