Behaviour

What is “normal” behaviour?

What is ‘normal’ behaviour varies between individuals – we all have our little quirks and eccentricities. The point at which the behaviour of a child or young person is problematic also varies. However, if the behaviour is affecting the young person’s ability to learn, interact appropriately with others and/or develop a healthy sense of self, then intervention may be necessary.

Sometimes it is difficult to know why a child or young person is behaving in a certain way – particularly if there is no apparent trigger or discernible pattern. The reasons are many so it can take time, and patience, to discover the underlying cause. However, for an intervention to be successful, understanding what is going on can make a big difference to the approach and outcome. Be sure to consider WHY the young person is behaving that way.

When considering the options available on KidsLink, be mindful that:

There is no “one” solution

There is no single convenient answer to many of the most important concerns affecting your child and family. No matter how badly we might wish for a simple answer or “quick fix”, we are faced with having to evaluate conflicting viewpoints affecting any given issue or problem. In truth, things are often more complicated than we would like them to be and it requires real effort from parents, Service Providers and the community.

Be realistic

For the vast majority of children and young people it would be wrong to say that they have a problem from which they will never recover or that little can be done to improve their situation. But it would be equally wrong to say that your child and family will be completely unchanged by the situation they and you are experiencing. Life is an accumulation of experiences. There is usually no pill, or any other treatment, that will take us back to ‘how we were before’ or in some cases ‘how we wish they had been in the first place’.

Personal experience

Ultimately, what works best for you and your child will be determined by your own personal experience – what worked brilliantly for your neighbour’s child may be of no benefit at all to your own, even though symptomatically the problem appears identical.

Because:

  • You know your child and family circumstances best;
  • there may be no consensus as to the cause of certain problems or what the best solution is, and
  • you are ultimately responsible for the care and welfare of your child…

KidsLink recommends that  you make your own enquiries as to the suitability, or otherwise, of any particular service or service provider.

Glenfield Pool and Leisure Centre – ActivZone

ActivZone Indoor Sports Arena in an incredibly versatile indoor sports arena, home of skating and table tennis on the North Shore. Our specialised rink is perfect for all kinds of indoor sports, such as hockey or soccer and we host a large range of events and programmes.

Location

  • North Shore

Specialities

  • Indoor Sports & Activities
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
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Girls Brigade New Zealand

Girls' Brigade is an international Christian movement for girls aged 5 - 18. Groups in New Zealand meet weekly after school or in the early evening for activities, games and devotions. Outings, camps, adventure sports and international events offer girls opportunities to enjoy challenges, grow friendships, learn new skills, and strengthen faith, all while having fun!

Location

  • North Shore

Specialities

  • Creative Arts
  • Indoor Sports & Activities
  • Outdoor Sports & Activities
  • Pre-employment, Careers & Life Skills
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
  • Social Skills
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Young Minds Consultancy

Young Minds Consultancy offers family and child consultations. Helping children, including those with special needs, behavioural problems resulting from anxiety, trauma, social/emotional issues or low self-esteem/confidence.

Location

  • Rodney

Specialities

  • Anxiety, Fears & Phobias
  • Social Skills
  • Special Needs
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Bays Youth Community Trust

Our team provides mentoring, counselling & youth coaching services to youth aged 11-18, helping to build quality relationships based on hope, care, forgiveness & support.

Location

  • North Shore

Specialities

  • Anger
  • Depression & Mood
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
  • Social Skills
  • Trauma & Grief
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The Performance.Net Central Auckland

We tutor Dance, Drama and Musical Theatre. The ‘big idea’ of this education is to nurture and promote skills that will be the key to future success. Our aim is to develop young people who can present themselves to the world with pride and confidence.

Location

  • Central Auckland

Specialities

  • Dance
  • Drama, Theatre & Musical Theatre
  • Gifted & Talented
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
  • Social Skills
  • Under 5s Skills & Activities
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Aurora Associates

I offer you brief or long term interventions for children, adolescents and adults. Assisting with a range of life challenges, I help create a new outlook on life.

Location

  • West Auckland

Specialities

  • ADHD & Other Behaviour Disorders
  • Anxiety, Fears & Phobias
  • Behaviour Concerns
  • Family Relationships
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Paterson Burn Optometrists – Chartwell

At Paterson Burn we care about encouraging good eye health in every sense which is why we aim to be leaders in the New Zealand optics industry by following a simple principle, to focus on you and your family, providing comprehensive and advanced eye examinations and treatments.

Locations

  • Hamilton
  • Waikato

Specialities

  • Eyesight
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
  • Testing for Learning Concerns
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Mt Eden Counselling and Psychotherapy

Mt Eden Counselling & Psychotherapy is a professional counselling practice serving clients across Auckland. Offering parents and caregivers a professional view and skills for managing anxiety, fears, and anger, as well as attachment education, to understand their child's difficulties and tailor parenting strategies to help their child be at their best.

Location

  • Central Auckland

Specialities

  • Anger
  • Anxiety, Fears & Phobias
  • Parenting Skills
  • Trauma & Grief
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BFF Adventureland

At BFF Adventureland & Cafe we are an exciting children’s indoor play land, providing a safe, secure and stimulating play environment catering for children from 0-12. With play equipment including a 16m x 9m frame, ride on animals and bouncy obstacle course for children and adults alike. We offer Before/After school care, holiday programmes, birthday parties and private venue hire, with a cafe onsite.

Location

  • West Auckland

Specialities

  • Before/After School Care
  • Holiday Programmes
  • Indoor Sports & Activities
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
  • Under 5s Skills & Activities
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Tim Bray Productions

Tim Bray Productions is recognised as Auckland’s leading theatre for children, producing four world-class shows per year mainly based on New Zealand stories at The PumpHouse Theatre, Takapuna. Our shows, Youth Theatre and Gift a Seat programmes are geared around making theatre accessible to all children and young people and inspiring them in a love for literature and the performing arts.

Locations

  • North Shore
  • West Auckland

Specialities

  • Creative Arts
  • Drama, Theatre & Musical Theatre
  • Holiday Programmes
  • Learning
  • Self-confidence & Self-esteem
  • Speech and Language
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